No parent wants to get an angry note from their child’s teacher, and they certainly don’t want to get one over something as tiny as a slice of chocolate cake!
Unfortunately for a mom in Australia, that’s exactly what happened. She sent her little girl to kindergarten with some chocolate cake packed in her lunch. She never expected the dramatic shaming that would come next, when the school decided her lunch choices were so unhealthy that they warranted an angry note home.
There are a lot of stories floating around these days about schools shaming parents over the silliest things, as we saw with the chronically ill mom who was called “lazy” by the school for wearing PJs to a morning drop-off.
The Australian mom had a similar experience with her daughter’s kindergarten after packing the chocolate cake for lunch. She shared her upsetting encounter with her friend Melinda Tankard Reist, a writer who has a prominent social media following. After hearing the story, Melinda quickly got the word out about this particularly unkind form of mommy shaming.
One mom in Australia got a rude reprimand from her daughter’s school after she sent her little one with a packed lunch that included a slice of chocolate cake for dessert.
The mom has decided to stay anonymous, but she shared her experience with Melinda Tankard Reist, a friend who is an author with a large social media following.
Melinda shared the mommy-shaming note on her own Facebook page, where it quickly racked up more than a thousand likes and hundreds of comments.
The note read: “Your child has ‘chocolate slice’ from the Red Food category today. Please choose healthier options for Kindy.”
It came written in bright red ink, and it was stamped with a giant frowny face. In Australia, the public school system encourages parents to pack healthy lunches by categorizing different types of foods as green (good), yellow (OK), and red (bad.)
While we like the idea in theory, it seems a bit over-the-top to send such an obviously shaming and condescending note home because of one treat packed in the lunch box.
Melinda feels similarly, posting her own thoughts on the matter alongside the note.
She wrote:”My friend (mother of 8 healthy children, what follows relating to no. 7) received this today from her 3 year old’s kindy. I told her to put in two slices tomorrow and tell them to get lost.”
In a statement to LittleThings, Melinda also noted that both of the little girl’s parents have health science degrees and take healthy eating very seriously.
In fact, they rarely send anything unhealthy in with their kiddos, but they also understand the value of an occasional special treat.
Melinda dded, “The slice was homemade for her brother’s birthday and as per family tradition, leftovers went to school the next day.”
In fact, they discovered that homemade cake doesn’t even violate the school system rules, which specifically ban processed, packaged cakes.
The bigger problem with the note wasn’t that it asked them not to send cake in with school lunch. After all, we all know cake isn’t an everyday snack, it’s a special-occasion dessert!
We imagine that Mom probably wouldn’t have minded the school reaching out in a kind way and saying, “We know this was a special occasion, but please don’t make a habit of sending in sugary treats.” That’s a reasonable request.
Instead, the message was sent home with the 3-year-old child in the form of rude, impersonal, and patronizing note to the parents.
Melinda said that notes like this are probably the result of harried teachers trying to check an item off the list as quickly as possible. However, the writer is worried that it sends the wrong message.
Not only are Mom and Dad being shamed for how they choose to feed their children, the little kids might see that big red frowny face and start to develop an unhealthy sense of some foods being “bad” and other foods being “good” without understanding that it’s OK to eat special desserts and treats in moderation.
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